Redefining My Life’s Purpose…in a Recliner – Experts by ExperiencePosted May 19, 2018
By Shani Weber. Originally posted by Mayo Clinic on May 18, 2018.
Ever since I was a young girl I knew I wanted to be an Early Childhood Special Education teacher. My self-identity was being a teacher and my purpose was teaching.
My life was going as planned—until it wasn’t. Joint pain and dislocations became more frequent, I worked fewer and fewer hours, and my focus shifted to managing pain, healing joint injuries, and preventing new ones. I was losing my purpose in life—I was losing my self-identity.
The orthopedic specialists, physical therapists, my primary care provider, the pain management specialist I saw, worked hard to treat my physical symptoms, trying to increase joint stability to ease my pain. Yet, no doctor or physical therapist addressed my mental distress of losing who I was. Finally, I went to a geneticist and was diagnosed with Hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome (hEDS).
Hypermobile EDS, and all types of Ehlers-Danlos Syndromes (EDS), are genetic connective tissue disorders that can affect tendons, ligaments, skin, blood vessel walls, organ valves, the gastrointestinal system, fascia, eyeballs, teeth, and more. EDS can cause pain and problems in just about any part of the body and system. I could no longer teach or do many of my daily tasks. My life switched from toy bags and staff meetings, to needing a recliner, braces, and a situational wheelchair. I went from having purpose, knowing who I was, to barely recognizing myself.
After much reflection I realized that teaching, at its most basic, is helping others and although disabled, I could still do that in my recliner with the help of a laptop. I could provide support and help others with Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome; I could help their doctors and caregivers learn more about types of EDS, and different ways to treat symptoms; I could live a life with the purpose of helping others with EDS live better.
I began by answering questions about EDS in an online support group. I also helped with questions from patients and doctors who would email the Ehlers-Danlos Society’s Helpline. I have spoken at conferences and advocated for EDS patients at the NIH, FDA, on Capitol Hill, and at my state capitol with the help of family members. Today I run an EDS support group which I co-founded in my state.
I still live with daily joint dislocations and use many tools, medicinal and non-medicinal, to manage my pain. My electric recliner, which has multiple support pillows and an electric blanket that serves as a giant heating pad, is where I spend most of my waking hours, helping others. And, my life has a purpose—I’m helping people every day.
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